Every breakup is different. Some people might get over their ex in a few days, while others never lose the feelings they had for their former flame. Why are some breakups harder than others? We’ll answer this question so you can get through this tough time at your own pace.
The feeling that comes with a breakup is one of the strongest in the world. However, some people experience a split and come out of it within a few weeks. For those who take months and months to handle the pain, it can be a frustrating experience.
There are several reasons that breakups can be more difficult for some people. If you’re having a tricky time getting over your split, there’s a logical reason why! Let’s dive into the facts, rationales, and breakup psychology to get a clear picture.
The shift that comes with a breakup throws your biological rhythm wildly off-balance. You need to figure out a new way to operate, both physically and mentally, without warning.
Unfortunately, many are too broken by the sudden biological shift to speak.
Some couples never get into a routine with each other, and thus their biological rhythm doesn’t change when they split. The longer the relationship, the harder the shift.
There are two ways your perspective can change during a breakup. Both are difficult to deal with and can make a split more painful than it needs to be. It’s completely normal to experience either – after all, you were in a committed relationship!
Both are hard to handle.
A split might also change your view of your ex-partner. They were someone you trusted, and now betrayal is in the air. They’re a stranger to you now.
Those in toxic relationships might not see this the same way. If both despise each other, a break won’t hurt as much. Still, a toxic relationship doesn’t mean the split won’t hurt. There may be relief felt by both parties at the separation. However, there will still be pain as the world shifts. Even a needed breakup stings.
Many assume that short-term relationships won’t hurt as much after a breakup, but that’s not necessarily true. Even a week-long split can cause agony in partners. Some might not hurt as much, but others will feel much deeper than they had time to be. After all, it’s not just a physical investment – it’s mental, too. A split means the future events you had in mind won’t come to fruition.
Putting everything in perspective can help make the split hurt less.
Although many are addicted to their partners, many are not. Those who don’t experience the same rush with their partner may not feel this addiction loss when they part ways.
Rejection is awful, but it’s possible to overpower.
Most humans hate rejection; some find it less of a struggle to deal with than others. It’s all personal hard-wiring and emotional reactivity.
After a breakup, it’s normal to feel an uncomfortable amount of emotions, some of them confusing. Why are you feeling self-blame when they broke up with you? Where’s this anger coming from? What feelings are typical in a breakup?
These, and more, are normal.
Feelings felt after a breakup tend to be stronger than those felt on a normal day. They’re all normal. It’s your brain and body’s way of grieving as you deal with separation from your partner.
Coping with a hard breakup can feel impossible. As we mentioned above, the pain from a split can be just as powerful as physical pain. How are you supposed to cope with that?
There are a few strategies you can try out to handle even the most painful of splits. Hopefully, these will help you get back on your feet. You’ve got this in the bag!
One of the most critical things you can do after a breakup is to take care of yourself. Why not take advantage of this time and do some of the things you used to do when you were single, back before you met your ex? There’s so much possibility now, even though it might feel like the world is falling down around you.
Try something new, or revisit an old favorite.
Breakups aren’t fun, no matter what your relationship looked and felt like. Even though it can feel impossible, you’ve got this! There is a light at the end of even the most painful breakup.
What do you think about splits? Have you ever fought through one and triumphed? We’d love to hear in the comments below!
